Dear Athena
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Issue date: 10/27/05 Section: Entertainment
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Dear Athena,
I am still in love with my ex-boyfriend and he says that maybe some day we can be back together. Well, I am tired of being sad and waiting to see if he will ask me back out.
The point is I want to go out with other guys, but I don't want to do the wrong thing. What should I do?
Sit'n Around
Dear Sit'n,
By all means go out with other guys!
Do not put your life on hold for this ex of yours. Going out with other people is not the wrong thing to do; after all, you only live once.
Really, do not wait around for him even if you do love him.
If he is the guy for you he would not tell you that "maybe someday we will get back together."
You have more love to go around!
Dear Athena,
My boyfriend and I live together. In the bathroom he has all these bad magazines, which is fine with me.
However, when we have guest I ask him to hide them, but he never will put them away. I feel they are inappropriate for the guests, like our parents, to see! How do I get him to get rid of the magazines for a while?
Rid the magazines
Dear Rid,
Make a deal with your man. Make him understand that he is lucky to have the magazines in the first place. Let him know that if he can't move them for a few hours you will throw them away.
Another thing you can do is cover them with appropriate magazines; put a few on top!
Dear Athena,
I watch my cousin three times a week. I have ways to discipline him, but then when he goes home, his parents do not follow through. I feel that we have to be constant on how he is disciplined.
How can we get on the same page?
Concerned
Dear Concerned,
First and foremost you need to understand that you are not your cousin's parent, even though you do play a big role in his life. You are right, it is very important to have consistency in this child's life. Sit down and talk to the parents. Let his parents share their ways of discipline and you do the same.
Dear Athena,
My neighbor comes over every day about five times a day. I do not spending time with her, but not that much time. I have my own life to live! How do I break it to this woman that she needs to stay home?
-Next Door
Dear Next Door,
This woman just might be lonely and likes to be in your presents. Pick out a few hours a week where you are free to spend time with her and make it a routine thing. Let her know that the other time there are things you need to do by your self. Then when she does come over just remind her that you will see her in a few days and you two can spend time then. She should get the point.
I am still in love with my ex-boyfriend and he says that maybe some day we can be back together. Well, I am tired of being sad and waiting to see if he will ask me back out.
The point is I want to go out with other guys, but I don't want to do the wrong thing. What should I do?
Sit'n Around
Dear Sit'n,
By all means go out with other guys!
Do not put your life on hold for this ex of yours. Going out with other people is not the wrong thing to do; after all, you only live once.
Really, do not wait around for him even if you do love him.
If he is the guy for you he would not tell you that "maybe someday we will get back together."
You have more love to go around!
Dear Athena,
My boyfriend and I live together. In the bathroom he has all these bad magazines, which is fine with me.
However, when we have guest I ask him to hide them, but he never will put them away. I feel they are inappropriate for the guests, like our parents, to see! How do I get him to get rid of the magazines for a while?
Rid the magazines
Dear Rid,
Make a deal with your man. Make him understand that he is lucky to have the magazines in the first place. Let him know that if he can't move them for a few hours you will throw them away.
Another thing you can do is cover them with appropriate magazines; put a few on top!
Dear Athena,
I watch my cousin three times a week. I have ways to discipline him, but then when he goes home, his parents do not follow through. I feel that we have to be constant on how he is disciplined.
How can we get on the same page?
Concerned
Dear Concerned,
First and foremost you need to understand that you are not your cousin's parent, even though you do play a big role in his life. You are right, it is very important to have consistency in this child's life. Sit down and talk to the parents. Let his parents share their ways of discipline and you do the same.
Dear Athena,
My neighbor comes over every day about five times a day. I do not spending time with her, but not that much time. I have my own life to live! How do I break it to this woman that she needs to stay home?
-Next Door
Dear Next Door,
This woman just might be lonely and likes to be in your presents. Pick out a few hours a week where you are free to spend time with her and make it a routine thing. Let her know that the other time there are things you need to do by your self. Then when she does come over just remind her that you will see her in a few days and you two can spend time then. She should get the point.